Excellence in your dresscode (part 1 of 6) 12/05/2012
Part 1 of 6 in series of Excellency in: Dress code, quiet time, time management, money, Evangelism, Attitude to work, school & university. 1) You are Gods temple so dress like it Ok my Dear so anyone that has made Jesus her Lord is saying that he is Lord over her life, job, money, home, lifestyle, attitude and dress code amongst a number of other things right? When God is your main man, you are accepting the treasured role as a royal priesthood of him as it points out in 1 Peter 2:9-10 “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. 10 Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.” So my sister what you need to understand from this perfect piece of scripture is that you are “God’s special possession” and that you are now part of his “wonderful light.” So dressing with too short skirts and too much cleavage is not cute and definitely not Godly. You tummy should not be on show when you go to church or anywhere else. Also wearing jeans that look like they are painted on may look cute on a music video but for a woman of God I would say that is a big no-no. In life you need to have balance, you need to look feminine and also a Godly woman but not overtly sexual so you look like you out on the rpowl for men, you are precious so make sure you outfits are an honour to God and his message that lives in you. Look cute for sure, but make sure your outfit is not talking louder that the message God has laid in your heart which is to share your faith daily. Have a good balance. Remember my dear you are in the world but you are not of this world. You here for a short time and you have a massive job to do which is outlined in Matthew 28:18-20 where you need to be making disciples. So your focus must be on getting people to Christ not only on how cute your outfit is. Now don’t get me wrong I don’t want you looking like slobs or manly, because you just moving to the extreme now showing the rebellion in your heart. I just want to advise you that you my dear that you are a special treasure to God and your dressing needs to reflect the precious gift of the holy spirit that Gods has allowed to indwell in you. You are special my sister so please make sure that your dressing is of a woman who is fit to be a Queen. You are special because God chose you to be his daughter, not your neighbour, your friend at the job or the girl at the shops, but you. You are Gods precious jewel and your dressing needs to reflect that you my dear are Gods temple as it points out in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your bodies. You are Gods temple, so dress like it 
This scripture really inspires me and reminds me that I am holding the temple of God and it needs to look like it and that I am a priceless tool in Gods kingdom and that you dress code needs to truly honour the price Jesus paid with his life so that you can live. You also need to be modest in the way you present yourself as it says in 1 timothy 2:9-10 I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. So let me explain this scripture, when you are out and about sharing your faith, encouraging people and being the fantastic woman of God. Those who you speak to should be concentrating on the inspiring message you are delivering and not how banging your nails are or the rocking pair of heels you got on. You go to church to meet God and not men, so the attention needs to be on the God in you rather then the cute skirt you got on. You should be radiant from the awesome quiet you had that morning not just from the blusher you puting on your checks. Sis get the balance right, your beauty must come from your inner beauty not only from how you dress as it says in this scripture in 1 Peter 3:3-5. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewellery or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. Now remember I agree that all women should look and feel great, but that must not be your loudest message, what you say should have more impact than that what you are wearing. Let your dressing reflect your heart for God and not your love for a great pair of jeans only. Just always remember when you get ready in the mornings. Is it suitable for where I am going, is it my size, is it good for the weather, can I bend in this outfit without showing the whole world my crown jewels. If any of these basic questions are a no then take it off and get something more appropriate on. 1) Just because it fits doesn’t mean it is Godly or good for you to wear my dear Be wise in what you put on daily, you my dear are God’s Ambassador for his message. Have you ever seen Diplomats and Ambassadors look scruffy when they are out and about in their sleek cars and shaking hands with foreign gentry looking a hot mess? No then neither should you because you serve a bigger king than a worldly Government you serve God and you need to dress like that daily. OK I know it is cool to have a casual day but this should not be you routine uniform of tracksuit and trainers, no matter how comfy they feel. So when I say be wise like in Proverbs 4:6 it states Just because it fits you doesn't mean you should wear it Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you. Always make sure that the skirt you are wearing is not too short and tight even if you do have a great pair of legs, showing your outer beauty to win people is no longer your strongest tool, your heart is my sister. So something that you used to wear when you are 16 and now you are a woman in your 20’s and 30s will not cut it. . Too tight jeans, see through tops all have a place and it is not in church, crank for your husband at home on date night though my dear. I love this scripture Romans 12:1-2 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. This scripture really encourages me and reminds me that we can look cute and pretty without having to look like a prono star. You are a princess and not the prostitute in Proverbs 7:10 then came out a woman to meet him dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. Also my dear I am not saying look like a boring dull woman in bland colours and textures, I am just saying make sure that your inner beauty is banging and not just the blusher on your cheeks and that new bag. Don’t be extreme either in your dress code and start wearing a full on burka and a bed sheet, that’s not cute and will merely show the rebellion in your heart. Always seek advice on what you are wearing if you cannot bend, sit or stretch without showing the whole world your crown jewels, then please my dear do not wear it. Always be wise in what you wear, men sin with their eyes, so one look at your legs in a short skirt when communion is coming around can cause a brother to sin. Also for sisters, they sin in their hearts, so your dress code can cause jealousy in another sister who has body anxiety issues. Don’t look dull and boring look like the Queen that God died for you to be. Your awesome. It might be an idea to review your wardrobe today with a friend and ask them to help you review any items that I did might not really reflect you as the true Godly woman that you are. I had to get rid old raving tops, dress, friends and mindsets when I became a true disciple of Christ. It is actually very therapeutic and freeing. Try it and let me know how it went. In conclusion I just want to say always keep yourself and your sisters in check, be a great watchman as it states in Ezekiel 33:1-6. If you naturally gifted up top, then please wear a scarf that can guard your purity and prevent other from sinning if they got an eyeful of your cleavage. When you move around always check your clothes are still in place. You rock; I love you and please continue to be the Queens that Jesus died for you to be. I would love to hear what you think, hit me up on info@soyaras.co.uk Add Comment Get your mind right and your heart too. This is often easier said than done, but it can be done. When your mind starts to float into impure things like hugging, kissing a guy or worse going all the way then every one of those thoughts take a diamond out of your precious jewels bag. Did you mind just float back to a past experience…erm...that will cost you 5 jewels please. Not a good look when you supposed to share the full 100 bagful of diamonds with your husband only on your precious wedding night. The physical intimacy of a married couple is a witness to the spiritual joining on their souls before God. The physical activity is a reinforcement of their love which s actually from God. The physical activity between husband and wife is the private connection of their public declaration of love. Sex is the physical story that God has joined these two people together in mind body and soul. That is why physical intimacy should only be done in a marriage. When boyfriend and girlfriend get together, they are saying that they are joined but really, their sprits do not know each other because they have not been untied before God.  Wild Worldly chicks say… Living together is cool and that it is just like a real marriage because they share the entire household responsibly, she says that her boyfriend is her next of kin; they have joint bank accounts etc. There is just one small problem; God does not know who the two of you are. The wild chick says that having impure thoughts just shows that you have a strong sex drive and at least you will not be bored in bed with your boyfriend right? Wild worldly chick thinks that watching pornography (porneia is the Greek word for immorality) is a way of educating herself so that she can please her boyfriend…she is wrong her heart should be to please God.  Wise women say... So here are some handy tips to keep you diamond bag full and the impure thoughts that often lead to the activity away. Impure translated MEANS “UNCLEAN”, do alternative activities like singing, reciting some Scripture, put the washing one, call a friend. The wise woman knows that to maintain her bag full of diamonds she needs to get rid or avoid things that will pull her mind back to impure thoughts. The wise woman knows that she needs to kill off anything that links to that way of death: sexual promiscuity, impurity, lust, doing whatever you feel like whenever you feel like it, and grabbing whatever attracts your fancy. That’s a life shaped by things and feelings instead of by God. Col 3:5 (MSG). Wise woman also understand that this world is not her home and not to get too cosy with the world and its behaviour and that it is not acceptable to be a walking talking tease as in 1 Peter 2:11 Conclusion God wants Christians to experience great sex but not in the impure manner which the world tells us daily how they think it should be done. God knows how great it is because he created it. So this is part 3 of 3 read the rest on www.soyaras.co.uk Now ladies your mind is a powerful thing right? It can let you study and pass that exam you were you were cramming for at university. It can also take you into dreamland of dream job, man, holiday, hairstyle…I can go on. One more thing your mind as directed by the Holy Spirit can help you guard your purity. The battle of sin first starts in the mind. That is why in Ephesians 6:10-18 we need to put on the helmet of salvation so that we can distinguish what is good or bad thoughts that we need our minds to focus on to get us closer to God and his will over our lives. Every time you think up a sexually impure thought, remember a past activity, do an impure act a diamond or two gets taken out of your jewel bag. 
Wild Worldly chicks say purity cannot be lost because it was given to be shared... Now these chicks are dangerous, mark my words Sis. They believe and live their life in such a way that it is almost like they are doing charity work with their bodies by sleeping, entertaining and smooching with all the men in their phone book. Wild worldly woman say it is cool to live with your boyfriend even though she ain’t married, everyone does it now. I just want to point out to the wild worldly chick that as easy as it was to move it is just as easy to get kicked out. The Wild worldly chicks just chucked away about 30 or so diamonds with all the men in her little black book so far. They live by what they see, feel, see and hear and if it don’t look right or feel right then they may just call out switch and get a new man if they do not line up their ideal and always looking for the next best thing. There is no best thing in the world, so wild worldly chicks will keep searching for the next best man and actually never find it because their eyes are directed in the wrong area, they should face up. I know this I was one of them. Now they might think that their body is theirs and that they are free to do whatever they want to do right? Or so they think according to the magazines and celebrities swap partners…more so than husbands quicker than they change their shirt. The wild worldly chick’s role model of how to behave sexually in the world is what she sees. So if she sees footballer’s wives having affairs with other footballers it starts to become the norm. When the wild worldly chick sees couples have a major million dollars wedding with the magazine spread of the happy day and then days, months and often years later the same magazine that covered the wedding is now got the painful divorce as front-page news 
Wise women say... That she has been on that wild world chicks journey before and has or is currently facing some of the issues she may have struggled with but her response is different, her response if Godly. Wise women know that jumping from a man to man and holding her breath for that day he might drop to one knee, be her knight in shining armour and propose with a big bling ring is no way to live her life. Wise women know the only man they need to wait on is God. The wise woman knows that sexual sins are something different form all other sins as it says in 1 Corinthians 6:18. Wise women know that they need to honour God with their mind and bodies and not have even a hint of sexual immorality. The wise woman like the wild worldly chick has been there and worn the t-shirts, but there is a sharp difference. The wise woman has repented of her sins and stopped participating in the sexual sin because she saw that her bags of diamonds was almost on empty and studied the bible and saw what Gods visions for her sexuality was. Wise woman knows that her bag of diamonds is to be shared on her wedding night and marriage life with her husband where she will honour her marriage as guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between husband and wife as it says in Hebrews 13:4 This is part 2 of a 3 part series check here www.soy Standing up when all falls down 13/06/2011
How to stay uplifted when life knocks you down Some practical tips on how to stay positive during difficult times in life. Bad news often comes in the night time and will often be on your mind for the whole day right? Here are some useful tips that have helped me to stay positive during the difficult times that life throws at me.
Stay positive and remember you are still standing even when it all falls down. Love to hear what you think of the blog contact me on the details below. Email: info@soyaras.co.uk Web: www.soyaras.co.uk How is the love life…needs improving? It might help to Act Like a Lady and Think like a Man. 23/05/2011
Ok so my love life has not been that great recently, but I am always trying to improve it. Let me tell you if you are in love, looking for love or just trying to improve your love life you need to read Steve Harvey’s book Act like a lady think like a man. It has changed my approach to dating and love big time. Here are 5 tips from the book, there are loads more but I suggest you get a copy. 1) How men approach love is different from women. Men concentrate on: Who they are, What they do,How much they get paid Ladies once all of these three things are in order in a man’s life then and only then will he be entertaining love on a serious level. If you meet a man that has not achieved these three criteria in his life then don’t be surprised if he is not rushing you down the aisle.  2) If a man loves or is really “in-like” with you he will give you a title. Ok so ladies listen really hard when your man or the guy you are currently seeing introduces you to his friends and family. If he says, “this is my girlfriend Lisa”, then he has given you a title and he sees you as his and has put a claim on you. He is a keeper. My Dear if he just introduces you by your name, then get your bag and go, he don’t see you in the long term no matter what he says or does for you. 3) A man will provide if he loves you Once a man has claimed you, he will provide for you. The more he can provide e.g. sort your car out, pay your bills; help you in all areas of your life, the more alive he will feel. Every appreciation you show him for providing for you boosts his prowess, trust me. Has your man ever washed your car for you and you give him a big hugs and kiss and murmur “thank you baby” his chest will inflate so high and he won’t be able to walk out the front door and will see that he is adding value to your life. That’s what men love.  4) What men need? Ladies this is really simple, men need four main things from a woman: support from you e.g. you help him sort out his tax return or practice a talk he might have to give, loyalty, sex and food. If you are meeting all of these areas then your short-term relationships might just turn into something long-term my dear. 5) Men are fixers So ladies you know when you pour out your problems to your man like “the woman at work had the same hair style or top on as you as you”, your man will tell you to change your hairstyle or stop wearing the top. Unless you want him to fix the problem, then keep your mouth shut. Men want to hear the problem and fix it one time. Men are not like ladies who want to mull over an issue, think about it and digest it and keep going over the same point. Ladies tell your man things you want him to fix, anything else tell your girls. There are loads more tips in Steve’s book Act like a lady think like a man. You should grab yourself a copy. He also has another fantastic book out too Straight Talk, No Chaser. Let me know how your love life improves. Kisses until next time. Soyara Email: info@soyaras.co.uk Web: www.soyaras.co.uk Not what you know but who you know 1) Network your way up the success ladder So ever heard that statement “it’s not what you know but who you know.” So not all job adverts will be published in the main newspapers or job sites, sometimes word of mouth is the quickest advertiser. So you need to make sure that you are regularly networking, attending seminars, workshops and social networking sites for people who are already in the industry that you want to enter. 2) Consider a new career OK so you studied English and Maths, but did you ever think that these skills might be transferable to another industry. Research some other industries that you have always thought about doing, check what skills and qualifications are needed and book into the next taster course at your local college.  Take on extra tasks that will develop your skills. 3) Prove your worth at your workplace. So when you are doing a report for work, always try to go that little bit extra and add a further piece of research that you have considered, which not part of the original brief. Take on extra tasks that will develop your skills. Create a specialism area at work where you are the go-to person for certain information. Continue to read up on your subject area and keep current and ahead of the game. Success leaves clues 4) Find a good mentor Success leaves clues (Anthony Robbins). If you want to become better, you need to follow the example of those that have had success before you. Drop an email or go to lunch with someone who is in a position that you are interested in working in. Ask for guidance and advice on how you can develop your career.  Always think outside the box 5) Have an unlimited attitude If at first you do not succeed then try, try again. Think wider than what you can see at the moment. Have a vision that you can be anything that you put your mind to. Never think that you trained as a biochemist and that you cannot transfer those skills into being an engineer. Always think outside the box. 6) Trusts your instincts Put your CV out there and listen to feedback and make relevant changes. Take a risk and have a plan that is fluid, but albeit a plan. Learning is a lifelong process 7) Learn a new skills Learning is a lifelong process. Business changes so frequently and you need to keep up. So read relevant books, journals and attend seminars and keep your social networking skills current because often headlines appear here first. 8) Listen Listen to those in the industry, listen to feedback and make positive changes i.e. new course, change CV or read a book to get you that little bit closer to your dream job. Love to hear what you think of the blog contact me on the details below. Email: info@soyaras.co.uk Web: www.soyaras.co.uk Mob: 07943 814 884 Do not ignore your body (PART 2) Here is the second part of how to improve your health. Don't forget part one that was out last week if you need to catch up for great tips to have a better mind and body. Do something today that makes you smile 3) State of mind: Regardless of what you put into your mouth, if your mind is not right then no amount of food will make you feel better. We all know that chocolate and other pick me ups only have a short-term effect. Do something today that makes you smile, wear that new top that you were saving for “some big night” because today is for living. Make sure you schedule rest time into your day, so please, please, please make sure you give yourself 5 minutes in the morning just to focus on how you are feeling and what you want to accomplish today, this week, this year, this lifetime. Write down your dreams and passions if it helps.  Have some "me time" sessions Catch up with your girls and always give yourself a weekly “me time” session. Me time could be anything from reading one of your favourite magazines, going for a walk, shopping or heading off to a spa for some well deserved TLC. We women work so hard every day and do not always get a thanks for all of our efforts, so sometimes we need to tell ourselves thanks through our own “me time” sessions. When you feel the stress of the day coming on, stop breath, think, if it helps write the problem down. Go away from the problem and then re-visit it if possible with a fresh mind full of ideas and solutions.  Get a good night's sleep for a better day 4) Benefit of 7-8 hours Sleep every night: We women really do need our beauty sleep. Sleep is the time when are bodies recharge and rejuvenate. You know when you have not had enough sleep that you are ratty, rushing through the day and often when we are tired we eat more to get us through the day. Now I know this may be a difficult job when you have so many commitments and demands on your time like the children, the husband/partner and the over demanding boss. We work to live, not live for work remember. A quick tip, if you have young children, when you put them down for a nap, catch a few winks yourself, your motherly instinct will wake you up when your child needs you. You only have one life and why not go through looking beautiful and feeling great. You need to ensure you get a decent night’s sleep even on the weekends too; sleep will help you maintain your Goddess features. If you like this blog then please feel free to read part one and other fantastic blogs on www.soyaras.co.uk. Love to hear what you think of the blog contact me on the details below. Email: info@soyaras.co.uk Web: www.soyaras.co.uk Mob: 07943 814 884 Do not ignore your body. Those aches, pains, smells and discharges are just some of the ways your super body is trying to tell you that it needs help in certain areas. The body is a fantastic tool to self-repair and clean, but there are some conditions that need intervention. Ladies our bodies go through so much e.g. the menstrual cycle, childbirth and the menopause to name but a few. We have to get better at listening and seeing any changes in our body and providing the appropriate response. Whether that means changing behaviour, starting a new habit, stopping a bad one and seeing the doctor for that check-up we always seem too busy to attend or simply just by relaxing more. You only have one body in life so you must look after it and even though I know it sounds clichéd it will look after you too. Some steps to improve your health 1) Fit exercise into your life: Walking is free, easy and fun. Bring your best mate with you and make it a girl’s day out. Strap on those trainers and let me know how you get on. You can always squeeze in a bit of exercise every day. When you park your car to go shopping, park further way to squeeze in a 5-minute walk. Get off the bus or train a stop earlier when you are going to work to fit in a power walk that will get her heart pumping and your mind ready for a day at work. Take the stairs instead of the lift. Try it; trust me you will feel better for it. Invest in your health: Rather than buy that new dress that you have seen. Why not buy a pedometer that you can wear to track how many steps you take each day. When you use a pedometer you can set yourself daily targets of how many steps you want to take each day and slowly increase it and loose more calories. In addition, you can join a gym ; they always have some great membership deals at the beginning of the year. If the gym is not within your budget then you can buy some home gym equipment and do a 30-minute exercise routine in the comfort of your own home. Remember whatever you choose to do “moving is improving”. Make improving your health a priority. It is just as important as getting your hair done or your monthly leg wax and facial. Plan to be active and stick to it. You will love the results a good eating plan and scheduled exercise will give you. I look forward to seeing the new sleeker and healthier you "moving is improving” 2) What you eat affects your health and lifestyle: Eat everything…in moderation. Prepare and carry a snack bag that will be your lifesaver when the munchies start. So the night before prepare some snacks like nuts, fruit, yoghurt, carrot sticks and your recommended 2 litres of water. If water is a bit bland for you, mix it with juice or a dilute drink. An alternative is to drink herbal tea; I am drinking cranberry and raspberry tea as I write this for you. Select the better food option: Now I love a bit of jerk chicken, jolof rice, fish & chips and the skin on the chicken, but we all know that this is not the best option. So instead, if I am going out for dinner I try to select the better option of grilled fish or skinless chicken that is baked but preferably not fried. Do not forget your plateful of salads and vegetables that will keep you full. If you cannot buy fresh vegetables, then the frozen option will be just as good. Eat Less Eat less: It sounds really simple but this really works to cutting the excess weight. When you go out to eat, choose a dessert but share it with your friend or take it home and have it the next day, so the calories are spread out. Trust me this really works; now I could eat a whole slice (no I am lying the whole cake) of sticky toffee pudding and custard all to myself, but it tastes so much better when you have shared it and the calories too with a friend. Now let us run away fast from the word diet and make sure that we are eating a range of foods to maintain and improve our health. Your daily food intake should consist of a mixture of fruit, vegetables, and good carbohydrates: whole barley Grapefruit, Turnip Apples oatmeal, wholemeal bread, couscous, prunes, Apricots, Zucchini, Oatmeal, lentils, nuts & seeds and proteins (meat, fish, eggs, beans). Loose weight and exercise at home.PS: This is part 1, check back next week for part two. Love to hear what you think of the blog and give me any great ideas to improve or you want others to hear. Email: info@soyaras.co.uk Web: www.soyaras.co.uk Mob: 07943 814 884 You are important: Be the best You possible. 08/11/2010
You are important Do you ever feel that you are stuck in a rut or too tired to even cry. This blog gives you tips to stay uplifted and inspired even through the difficult days. Me Time One day a month have a pyjama day, where you lounge around the house all day or at least for a long morning in your pyjamas, reading books , eating chocolates and just chilling. You work so hard so you need to relax and rest hard too. If that does not sound like your cup of tea then book yourself in for that massage or pedicure or catch up on that book you been promising yourself to read. An exhausted , tired and irritated woman is no good to anyone, so you owe it to yourself to relax and refresh yourself on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. Running on empty only lasts so long and the tank will eventually break down unless you stop and refuel your engine. Have a pyjama Day ! |  Soyara
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